a response to a friend seeking answers:
a friend of mine recently wrote about the confusion of pursuing girls in today’s day and age and how the lack of this girl seemed extremely apparent. So i felt the need to respond…
dear friend, this is a blog i wrote about three years ago, expressing the same concerns as you but in reverse. the truth that you desperately need to know is that these such girls are out there and hopefully after reading what i wrote so long ago, you will be convinced.
“Friday, September 29, 2006
men, be men.
“And not just that romantic kind either. Although I am waiting for that beauty. Not helpless, but wants to be rescued. The damsel in distress, man, woman, myth, true. I will fight for her, climb the highest tower for her, love her, share with her, delight in her, be her warrior, her protector. She will be my crown and I will be hers.” (Manly Man -Bradley Hathaway)
I am convienced that every woman has this man out there waiting for her.Waiting to “fight for her, climb the highet tower for her, love her, share with her, delight in her, be her warrior, her protector…..” God has those men out there waiting for their beauty.
Men, be men. And don’t be afraid to be one either. Be a man of God first. Love God first and formost.
Take Risks.
Take Chances.
Get Uncomfortable.
Be Strong.
Take Charge.
Be the man God has created you to be.
-And in being a woman, i appologize for every woman out there who has belittled you as a man, hurt you as a man, made you insecure as a man. We beg for sensitivity but yet anger when men are too sensitive. We have made things way to hard of you, we have set you back. But here and now, rise up my loves. My brothers, be the man your heart longs for you to be.
It’s okay.
Be chivalris
romantic
caring
strong
adventurous
daring
risky
Be a man.
a manly man.
Please.”
The girls seeking authentic romance are not a commodity but a treasure and a very rare find.
We do exist, and if you are truly the gentleman we are seeking for then continue in your gentlemen like manner of saving and reserving your heart for us to come along, and refrain from giving your heart out to every girl that comes your way, but be patient and believe.
You must know that in the true pursuit of finding love …..is not found in the random hook ups or the constant flirting with the idea of love, but in true devotion in bettering yourself in pursuit and preparation for real true love.
We have to be what we are looking for before we can ever find it.
We are not emotionally designed to be jumping on every boat that comes by, because it looks like it could be the right one, or the right one at the time, but knowing ourselves well enough, being a whole person alone, to know when we are ready to fall in love, and to know that our whole life is capable of loving another and adding that person into our life.
true love should not be something we make time for or fit into our schedules but its the type of thing we turn our lives upside down for, and until you are ready for that….. you are not ready for love.
so please don’t call on the name of love for a bar girl romance or a summer fling, but only for the woman that makes you question your worthiness of her time for you would only be the best you can possibly be for that caliber of women. so rather then focusing on the confusions of the women in our society (which i may add are many). Focus on becoming the person who is equal to what you are looking for. …and then, LOVE will find you.
please know i say this all in love, to encourage any guy or girl in the same situation.
-k.
